Wanzology

Hypocrisy Pt. 2

 Hey!! Welcome back to WANZOLOGY! Man, this is like the first two-part episode ever and you're a part of it.

Well, where we left off was kind of, kind of weird. In The Book Of Wanz, #THEBOOKOFWANZ, which is still available on your Amazon. We were on the chapter: HYPOCRISY SEEMS TO STEM FROM ONE WHO BELIEVES THEY KNOW WHAT'S BEST FOR EVERYONE AND NOT CONSIDERING WHAT'S SAID FROM THAT, EVERYONE.

Now, to me what that means is that other people are telling others to do something themselves. Oh, no, no, no. I wouldn't go there. I wouldn't, I wouldn't eat that. I wouldn't go there. I wouldn't hang out with them. I wouldn't do this. No, no, no. But you can. Go ahead. It's wrong, but you can go ahead. Hate hypocrites, man. Hate’em! Hate’em!; and I think women have it the worst because there are seemingly a zillion sources of what the world thinks they should look like, talk like, dress like, and just be, and it's been happening to them seemingly forever. Guys don't have really that. Not really. We separated from our emotions a long time ago when we were, like, sticking firecrackers in the severed head of G.I. Joe to see what would happen. That's a lack of emotion.

Not having a tea party. Not dressing up in lace. None of that. And as we, part of our lives, some of our behaviors and judgments became hypocrisy to other people. They couldn't understand how you could think the way that you think, say the things that you say, go the places you go, and you know, the thirties are just littered with people who have tried to change other people. I remember I didn't understand why is, why? But I always kept these things to myself. You know, it was like a suspense movie for me, watching people practice their hypocrisy was like watching the upcoming highlights of whatever movie was coming out next week. More times than not, I could see where it was gonna go, and almost every time, I knew I couldn't do that, or wouldn't do that, whatever that was.

How do you deal with this? How do you deal with people who think they know what's best for you? I don't know. Ask a woman. Ask a woman how she feels about the government deciding for her whether she can have a child or not. Whatever your religious stance is.

I saw a news story about a woman in Texas who was going to have twins, only a couple weeks later, they found out that one twin was malformed, there was liquid gathering in his brain. He was not going to survive, or it, (I don't know whether it was a he or not), was not going to survive. Not at all. And they needed to remove that one child so that the other child and the mother would live. Many a doctor came to that conclusion, none of them would perform the procedure because it involved an abortion. So, this woman and her husband had to figure out how are we going to get 700 miles to Colorado to have this done. How are you going to travel there? I mean, there is an organism inside of you is dying, and that dying stuff spreads inside, so maybe you're too sick to fly, and, and, you know, how long are you going to drive?

How long can you stay in a car without getting deathly ill? These are unknown things that these people had to figure out, but they made it to Colorado, have the procedure, and have a beautiful son. They mourn the son that they didn't have. In the state of Texas, the best way to protect yourself if you're a woman is not to get pregnant. Because once you get pregnant, you lose so many things, it seems. I don't like that. Because I'm a guy, and I see other guys. Guys will do whatever the hell they want. And women don't really have that option all the time, and of course, there are exceptions to every generality, but the hypocrisy is undeniable. Un-de-niable. When it comes to men and women, when it comes to one race versus another race, one culture versus another culture, there are all these things that in this world today, you have to navigate. If you haven't figured out how you're going to handle the hypocrisy, you’re gonna have problems.

It's not an immediate thing. You're not gonna have problems like all of a sudden, you're just like manic or something. It doesn't work like that. No, it's very gradual, the eating away of your confidence, the self-judgment, the belief that because you're different, that makes you bad. Actually, it takes a while to get to bad first. It's like you start questioning why no one else does what you do, and when you ask people who you supposedly trust, well, they don't see what you see all the time. Maybe you're making it up. Yeah. That's why you feel that way, cause you made it up on purpose. Doubtful, highly doubtful. Once you start self-evaluating how you should be based on other people around you, you’re heading down the wrong road. All you're doing is taking stuff from yourself. Okay. And you might need it. You might need to realize how special you are, and if you don't have the mental coins in your bank, maybe you'll be one of those who looks for an escape and gets stoned or get high or shoot up, or maybe go to the bar and drink. After a while, it doesn't feel comfortable to drink at the bar, so you just stay home and drink. And sooner or later, all that feeling, plus all those outer substances, start taking a toll. And if you go too far with all that, it could kill you.

I don't mind telling people that I'm a recovering alcoholic. Every day is a new day for me. Every day is a new chance for me to succeed at being sober or fail at being sober. I don't try to tell the future. All I try to do is the next indicated right. And most days I don't know what that is. Figuring it out as I go. Doing the best that I can. But it's taken me a few years to be able to forgive myself when I don't get it right.

When I say or do the wrong thing to someone else, because I don't want to be that person that says, “Oh, just get it over it.”, cause I remember what it was like being told, ‘Oh, just get over it.’, it doesn’t feel very good. It is certainly not helpful. There are no directions on ‘getting over it’.

Beware hypocrisy because it comes with expectation, and once you get in that lane of expecting things to be a certain way, you are setting yourself up. You may think you know the answer, but you don't. You know an answer. You know a way of doing things. You know, from your experience, what happened before to you, but don't assume that that translates to someone else. Don't translate your experience at the haunted house onto someone who doesn't want to go to the haunted house. Don't think that just because someone likes Star Trek over Star Wars that they're an idiot. Don't assume because you'll be wrong more times than not.

Here's the thing that's really gonna kick your ass. You really wouldn't like anyone to do that to you, would you? I didn't think so. Me, I've gotten so old and tired of it. I really don't give a crap because people are going to people whenever they people, and when there's a lot of people, ‘peoplein’, I just watch them and try not to be them because I don't want whatever it is they think they know. Maybe I've been through it. Maybe I haven't, but more times than not, I'll be going home to my own bed and sleeping and some of them are going to go get wasted and perform some really cool thing with their vehicle and maybe hurt somebody. Or maybe they'll go home and be all full of piss and vinegar at just losing their job,and they think it's a good idea to just beat the crap out of their partner. I don't know, there are lots of possibilities and not all of them are ugly. I do know that in my experience, a lot of them are caused as an offshoot. of hypocrisy demonstrated or observed. So this chapter it's pretty deep:

HYPOCRISY SEEMS TO STEM FROM ONE WHO BELIEVES THEY KNOW WHAT'S BEST FOR EVERYONE AND NOT CONSIDERING WHAT'S SAID FROM THAT EVERYONE.

There's more than one way to get to Paris, Texas, or France. There's more than one way to prepare eggs. There's more than one way to do a lot of things. So to have a person or a group of people, namely a religion or a government tell you what's best for you, make sure that they listen to you. And if they don't listen to you, well, then you got a choice to make. And I'll finish with this because I just thought of this. You'll have a choice to make, right? So years ago, a lot of us were shut in our house because we didn't want to catch COVID and we didn't want to end up on a ventilator and die because that kind of seemed like that was the M O you got sick, you went to the hospital, they put you on a ventilator. You never came home. It was that way for a lot of people. And after a lot of imagination and a lot of trying and figuring out new ways of doing things, a vaccine came on the scene, and it worked. So, the people that saw that at work said, I want everyone to have the vaccine. If you're going to work here, you need the vaccine. Some people got really pissed. You can't tell me what I need to put in my body. It's my body. And I watched many a person argue that you can't take my job. You can't do this. You can't do that. Sorry. The first day that you were hired, you signed a piece of paper. And on that piece of paper, some of your rights you gave away. You agreed to do that. Just like you signed a piece of paper and checked a box. And you can watch Netflix now. You can get a credit card. You can buy a car. Buy a house. Install a computer program. But the hypocrisy is, is that every one of those things has its own flavor of a code of conduct. It has its own set of rules.

In computers, in software, it's called the user agreement. Lots of stuff buried in there, like where your private information goes, but in this country, it was a very, very nice experiment watching those people who didn't want to get the vaccine, for whatever reason, they didn't want it. And then were pissed off about the things that they couldn't do or couldn't, places they couldn't go because. Those are consequences of your decision, folks. It just kind of made sense. Could you imagine if I’m going to Costco? I don't care if anyone else is vaccinated. I'm not getting that shot. You don't know who you're going to walk past and dump that virus on. Could be the one person who doesn't have the antibodies to fight it, and in less than a week, they're dead. Because they walked past you sampling some weird sausage from Tennessee at the end cap of an aisle in Costco. There is a greater good. There is more to living than just whatever it is that you do. And it's very hypocritical to think that your way should be everybody's way. Doesn't work that way. Doesn't work that way.

I know, I've talked a long time. I don't think I've ever had an episode this long, but I think you get the point. Hypocrisy is, is a, is a very dangerous thing. Because when you're pointing the finger at somebody doing something, always realize that there are three fingers pointing back at you, and you're in the middle of doing something. And if you're honest and accountable, you won't like that. No one likes the, “do as I say, not as I do”, mantra. No one. Well, I mean, no, nobody does. Even, even, even soldiers don't like it, but they do it because they know that that's their duty and they signed up for it. Children don't like it, but parents do. Children don't like it. Well, they haven't had the experience, the experience, has. That the older person has had, and conversely, the older person has forgotten what it felt like to be the younger person. It's very funny in this country right now. There are a lot of people who think they know better than you about what's best for you. Be on the lookout, be on the lookout, or you may end up in a position where you have less of whatever. Mostly, you have less choice, like Texas. Being a woman in Texas is kind of Not even kind of. It's very frickin dangerous. You could be celibate, but, like I said before, there's a lot of ways to get to Paris. A lot of ways.

Hopefully, you'll explore some other ways to do things with other people, and figure out how they see things, and understand them, respect their experience and their opinion, and if you can use some of what they've done, take it, and leave the rest. The nice thing about being an adult in this world is you always have a choice, you may not like the choices presented, but a choice you still have. Always remember that. You get to make a choice, and since no moment is guaranteed, so be careful. Pay attention, and for God's sakes, if somebody accuses you of being a hypocrite, before you jump down their throat, ask them why, why they would say such a thing.

I really want to ask a priest, why he would say a Muslim is the devil. I really want to ask a Muslim why they say a Jew is. Because none of that makes sense to me, because they're doing the same damn thing. Living the way that they were taught. They were taught to have enemies. They were taught to fight.
To a certain extent, all of us were, and I just don't understand it anymore. Because to me, it's, it's the ultimate hypocrisy to use religious justification on other people. I mean, I'm no theological scholar, but I do know none of the deities that head up any religious sect told you what you had to do.

They said, “if you want what I have, then you'll do”. That's different. You want to be a Christian? Let Jesus into your heart. You want to be a Muslim? I wish I knew more about that. You want to be Jewish? I wish I knew more about that, too. I wish I knew more about a lot of things, I but I don't. I just know what I know.

My nephew had the best saying ever. He told me, “Start from wherever you are, use whatever you've got, and do the best that you can.” Start from wherever you are, not where you want to be, use whatever you've got, not what you wish you had, and just do the best that you can.

I haven't found a situation yet where that is not applicable, and I hope that It’s a little food for your emotional tummy. And you can use it too. Because all of us are just doing the best we can, and some of us just aren't as great as others at doing it. It's a fact. But accepting that fact is still a choice. How you accept that fact.

Alright. Like my mama said, “do something good for yourself, then go do it for somebody else.”

There's no reason why they can't have that feeling, none at all. And sometimes, they really need that nice thing, whatever that is. Thanks for putting up with me. I will see you next week on WANZOLOGY.

Peace.